Living some experience in her fully authenticity needs an attainment of a state of “no identification”.
The state of detachment is a different thing. Being detached means to take some distance from a phenomenon, living it with a minimal participation by our part.
Non identification is the ability to experience a reality for what it is, without being completely intellectually or emotionally colored by the events. We feel, we live what happens with all the intensity, but we know that we are not the situation who happens.
When we look a movie, we become identified with the leading actor, and , once the movie finishes, we took with ourselves the desire to be the same actor, so we begin to evoke the appropriate emotions who could give us this sensation.
Or, when we look the social field we can observe similar behaviors: many young identify themselves with a group, taking the correspondent symbols, ideals and thoughts. In this way, feeling part of a group, they overcome their insecurities. This leads away from themselves. They stop thinking by themselves and accepts the thoughts and ideals of the group.
In both the examples above mentioned , identification makes impossible to grasp the artistic beauty of the film, or the actual reality and efficiency of a group or a social we accept as our and follow: identification leads us away both from ourselves and reality.
It’s through the identification in an ideal, that one may become intolerant, intransigent, sectarian and violent.
An ideal must grow and develop within ourselves only through maturity, it can be shared with other people, but when we give up your thinking to conform to the ideals of a group we fall into an identification that leads to unproductive results.
Learning how to live fully and intensely without become identified, needs the ability of controlling our minds and a better managing of our emotions. We need to understand the difference between “thinking” and “feeling”, developing the ability to think without being influenced by emotions and to live fully our feelings without the interference of mental processes who slow or interrupt the emotional flow.