“The secret of happiness is freedom. The secret of freedom is courage.”
It’s a common saying that the truth hurts, but it’s at the same time what allows us to be as we are, unconditioned, without anger, resentment, dissatisfaction, in despite of all lies, false beliefs and half-truths who characterize our everyday society. But, why is so hard to be true, sincere? And why, when we permit the expression of our true self, of our Being, of what we really are, we feel to remain isolated and, in some way marginalized from the others, who feel us almost uncomfortable?
Truth is one of the few things that saves us from suffering. But … what truth are we searching for? Our truth? Everyone has a subjective and false perception of the truth. Being oneself is not entirely easy, or rather, it is not easy to see if what we call “ourselves”, is really what we think it is.
It ‘s easy however, to incur the error of being misunderstood and marginalized, just because others do not clearly accept what we say, think and do, and this doesn’t always coincide with what we are in our deepest levels.
Being true, more real, more “what we really are” doesn’t lead us to any emancipation, indeed, a degree of “integrity” is what enable us to earn trough time a degree of respect from the other persons, even from those who think differently than us. The core of the problem are not the results of the freedom we eventually achieve, but rather our deeply rooted need to be understood and accepted by the others. Being ourselves doesn’t necessarily mean to be accepted. In fact, an objective or subjective truth, has a philosophical value which must be kept separate from the attitude of being accepted.
If we are honest, sincere and upright towards ourselves and the others, this has a value who lies in the “field of ideas”, an uncontaminated sphere without any interference from the external needs of achieving some social acceptance. Indeed, this is the place of ethics, in which the perception of what is right and good, although this concept is subjective to changes through time, so isn’t objective, its uncontaminated, more pure and sincere, so of positive value.
This noble attitude loses all his purity and positive values when driven by the presumption of being understood, of being acknowledged and recognized as “good” or “intelligent” whatever the cost. Suffering doesn’t arise form the “misunderstanding” of the others, but only and exclusively from our compulsive need to be understood and accepted. If e search the causes of our dissatisfaction, they haven’t to be searched in an outside world who “creates suffering” through ignorance and sealing, but by the need to be recognized and accepted by that world: so, the cause lies in ourselves, not in the external world. Being “what we are as we are” is an expression of the inner freedom deeply rooted in the field of philosophical principles purified from every human need. “Being” and “having” may coincide- “Being” and “covet” possession not!!!
So, what we have to do? Taken from my personal and subjective point of view, the answer to this question question is quite simple: being ourselves, if we can and as we can, without any pretension of conquering the attention of the external world who surrounds us.
Love without any additional feeling, only for the purpose of Love, express your points of views without any pretense, express your inner needs without too much pretensions.
If we do this so, maybe we’ll discover that the world is not dull as it sounds. But, to do this so, we must be kidnapped by the thirst of knowledge, knowing who we really are, what we really want, and the only right question to ask is if we have the courage to do it so.