This is really another main problem along the path toward self-development. Revenge towards life in general, a response towards the thousands of humiliations we have suffered during our life.
It’s a reaction related exclusively to our past which prevents us to live our life freely, to be settled right now, in the present moment and our personal inner research.
A great and aggressive flow of energy which drives us in the direction of a compensation, a reward we think is our right, a sort of revenge to a presumed failure to transform a serious work directed to achieving a condition of joy and truth, to a recrimination toward what was until now, denied to us.
Then, here is the main obstacle on our personal path: our relations toward the material objects, the objects of our “desires”. A seeker can’t escape the problem of living in a materialistic world, filled by the dichotomy produced by the social influences which divide the spiritual from the material. This is really a big problem.
Ordinarily, a seeker must convince himself that in order to keep his research pure, it is useless to spend time with things that he considers “ephemeral”.
So, in this way, he develops a snobbish attitude against all material things. This is typical of a person who considers himself too “spiritual” to descend to human miseries, a sort of “intellectual racism” which divides progressively, the seeker from his own life, driving him to live in an illusory world, whose destiny is to fall down with devastating results.
Often, this false pureness is a mask to cover our fear to face a real life, which is also material. Indeed, we live in the matter and are made of matter. This incapacity to confront with material life problems, makes the seeker demonize them, labeling as impure which, on the contrary, with its own existence, is the proof of the Divine’s existence.
It is obvious that all the spiritual teachings suggest a detachment, but the reason for such a suggestion is that our behavior remains attached, identified to all things we consider we desire. The practice of self-observation permits the seeker to notice “appearances”, and to understand how they produce in human beings, a compulsive attachment towards all things which could provide him acceptance by others. But, the guilt does not have to be searched in matter, but in the individual slavery of every non-developed human being.
All objects are the result of human intelligence, and when they reach a high level of refinement, they become expressions of the human capacity to reach an absolute perfection. The objects are human dreams translated into matter, the best we can do in this limited terrestrial dimension, so they must be accepted, understood, and used in the best way we can – without being used by them: they are means, not aims.
The quality of an object depends on our individual capacity and desire for Being. They make us slaves if we accept to remain addicted to a wish to possess something. This happens when we consider these objects “object of Power”, as are goals, aims.
Otherwise, we can use the same objects to emancipate ourselves from all attachments, to burn the “Karma” which lead us to remain attached to matter.
We might use the objects, choosing those that best represent our individual sensibility, and disregard them when they become useless, without regret, because, although they were ours, we don’t belong to them. This is the way of using objects as a means.