The genitals are a perfect structure that exists not only for procreation but also for the reception and the communication of energy. According to ancient teachings, depending on the position assumed during the sexual act, this energy takes different channels and, if consciously directed, it can determinate energetic emotional or psychological variations in one center. The energy influences the quality and the duration of a sexual act, such as the inner effects.
Sexuality is a sanctuary and the human body, a temple through which can be experienced the sacrament of love.
The grayness and the emotional and intellectual inner weakness through which humans usually express the sexual function cannot bring them to a condition of fulfillment, unity and pleasure. The best thing that modern men and women can do is to make a distance from mechanical sexuality and sexual identifications, because to achieve again a control under this sphere, we must first emancipate ourselves from its slavery.
One of the main problems in the relationship between the sexes is a particular form of identification we once called “sentimentalism”. Indeed, even if sentimentalism could appear as harmless and positive, it is the main obstacle to the realization of a real inner and outer encounter between two beings. The imaginations and the mental dreams which arise when we like someone determine a series of difficulties in establishing a mature relationship with this person. Such identifications are a barrier to such a degree, that we could state we have a relationship not with a woman or man, but with our mental imaginations. We put ourselves in relationship with no other than our identifications: what we expect, what and how it could be, etc…. whether the person we meet is pleasurable or not depends on the degree of the expectations created from the above mentioned identifications.
We could experience marvelous passions, so consequently fall in love with this idea, not with the person: we are passionate with our identification, not of a reality. And this is not love. This is illusion.
This is the reason why, at the beginning of a relationship , all is perfect, but later, everything becomes a sort of nightmare that could end with catastrophic consequences. Probably, we have all experienced such situations. But this is a logical thing: an emotional energy which feeds an identification doesn’t last forever, and when it dissolves, what remains is only the reality we hadn’t previously noticed , even for a moment.
The reason why it is stated in the previous posts about sexuality that the sexual function should be studied after having barely achieved a control under the other functions, is just this: if we are unable to clearly distinguish an identification from a positive emotion, a mechanical, automatic and conditioned reaction from a natural and unconditioned impulse, the mental schemes for a desire free from mental influences, and we cannot understand anything about the sexual sphere. Maybe this statement could appear harsh, but it is true.
Before we become masters of the powerful and creative energy expressed from this center, we have to become free in the true meaning of the word.