In the love between a man and woman, in addition to a biological driving, there is also a search for fulfillment, a fusion, a need to become One. This is related to a high and important Cosmic (therefore, natural) Law. Indeed, all the Laws existing in our Universe tends to move towards this point: we have been created for this aim.
It’s an unstoppable motion which involves all of us. It is not our decision to search this fusion, but it is driven with all in the Universe toward this goal, towards the Oneness, the Divine.
Friendship, however, is a different thing – it isn’t driven by any natural Law, (at least, any Law related to the above mentioned), but it is a sort of “will” or “wish”, a feeling that is not given a priori, but is inherent with the maturation of a human being.
It is something “new”, an instance facing, in terms of possibilities, what is desired, pursued, captured…lived.
Indeed, friendship is a means for overcoming fears through emotion, a great opportunity to use our emotional energies and “channel” them to overcome critical limits in the path of self-discovery – our life.
We could speak about friendship as a sort of education for achieving the Higher Emotional sphere, an opening to a possibility otherwise almost impossible for us.
For a seeker, friendship is a very important and fundamental experience. Without such experience, there is not a possibility to develop the habit to share with others, so it’s impossible to develop the principle of Compassion.
So, not only love relations, but also friendship is more than a human feeling, it’s a “magical act”, made of courage, selflessness, generosity, ability to overcome the limits that alone would never be addressed. In this situation, all our best qualities arise…”a good object”, as said by Socrates.
In its essence, friendship has the strong capacity of separation between what is selfish, driven by fear, and what is the “Universal Source”, which drives us towards the overcoming of any differences, boundaries, towards a principle of Unity.
A friendship relation encourages us to be opened to what is “new”. In fact, a true friend almost never shows the same habits and the same behavior as ours. It’s something different than what is usual, mechanical for us, a diversity which stimulates characteristics of intellectual curiosity, attraction, involvement, and desire to understand other approaches.
Friendship in its maximal expression affirms a unique concept of respect. So, the research of any seeker is to persevere in this feeling, in this sacred field with the aim of dissipating the germ of the ignorance which keeps us so blind, so poor.