Being Underestimated


buIt’s not a good feeling being underestimated or not appreciated for what we are, and the most unfair reason is being unappreciated because our behaviour and way of thinking doesn’t match  the ordinary social clichès.

This could be very distressing, especially if the source of such behaviour toward us, are our parents, friends, or other people whom we respect.

Nevertheless, the opinion of others remain what it is, as it is: a subjective opinion!  And this opinion should not  influence our emotions very greatly. When these situations influence us, we are carried by the external influences, so, in order to get a “crumb” of external approval, we lose the capacity of “being ourselves”.

At the same time, we should avoid  judging those who underestimate us. Perhaps, on one hand, we are correct in feeling ourselves to be harmed by their thoughts, but it remains that their thought represents a perception of things that they have the right to have. If someone thinks we are crazy, this is his problem, not ours – it’s their problem if they enjoy losing time on such trivial things.

But what we should think about isn’t if we have or haven’t the right to be angry or offended by another’s considerations…but rather, why such considerations strike us.

The reason is that we are dependent, “addicted” to  external considerations. If we could be free from what  others think of us – and this means to not take heed that our thoughts or points of view are criticized and not accepted, we wouldn’t become so ardent towards those who, in our opinion, judge us unfairly. We need to increase our self-awareness in order to remain calm and stable towards the criticisms of others.

This incapacity of “being ourselves” in order to achieve positive consideration from those we usually attend, makes impossible a coherent and balanced way of living – and also, creates many difficulties to be understood correctly by  others.  If we remain coherent, sometimes those who criticize us could change their opinion. If this doesn’t happen… nevermind… it’s their point of view. If otherwise, we declare war on the whole world or, worse, we “prostitute” our thoughts so as to be accepted by  others, all becomes more complicated.

It must also be said that it is very difficult to maintain ourselves balanced when criticized, and at the same time we are unable to be open to the other’s opinions. We can always learn something about life and ourselves, from anyone, but there’s a great difference between changing our stance because we consider the criticisms as valid, and changing our points of view in order to gain a slap on the back.

Another personal consideration, in  my opinion, is that we should ponder on the fact that we can’t be false, at any cost, for the approval of those we love. If we truly love someone, we must accept her as she is, remaining firm in what we consider correct for us, but also remembering that others also have  a freedom of thought.

If someone thinks we are crazy, this is His problem, not ours – it’s their problem if they enjoy losing time on such trivial things….

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About mr Sarmoung

Andrea Dandolo je pisac i istražitelj razvoja svijesti i duhovnosti uključen u razotkrivanje drevnih učenja s ciljem olakšavanja unutarnjeg razvoja ljudskih bića. Jedan od načina kojima se time bavi je i kroz blog koji je preveden na engleski, španjolski i od nedavno hrvatski. Od rane mladosti je u svijetu duhovnosti i rada na sebi sudjelujući u radu grupa koje potječu direktno od Gurdjieffa, tj koje su bile vođene od strane samog Gurdjieffa U skladu sa drevnim znanjima, naglašava razvoj svjesnosti kao primarno sredstvo za psihološku transformaciju i duhovnu osvještenost individualaca. Karakteristike sistema koji predlaže su jednostavan jezik i moderni prijevod drevnih učenja kao i njihove praktične primjene u svakodnevnome životu. Njegov blog čitaju ljudi iz svih krajeva svijeta. Samorazvoj je ne religiozni i ne dogmatski put; sastoji se primarno od naprednog dostizanja viših stanja svijesti, p prisustva i konačno od ostvarivanja svoje prave intimne prirode, koja je poznata u mnogim tradicijama pod imenima poput esencija, duša, biće. Kroz takav razvoj individualna osoba ulazi u nove dimenzije svijesti koje mu omogućuju da vidi stvarnost sakrivenu iza iluzija. To mu omogućuje kreiranje osobnosti neovisne i otporne na vanjske situacije i vanjska uvjetovanja. Posljedice takvog razvoja su oštra inteligencija, izvanredni kreativni kapaciteti, ravnoteža i smirenost u svakoj situaciji i stabilno stanje višeg stanja svijesti koje je poznato u drevnim tradicijama pod nazivom “buđenje”.
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